Falling in Love. There’s nothing like it! I’ve been falling in love with people in my life my whole life. I think it first started when I was a little girl when I fell in love with my father. I was definitely ‘daddy’s little girl’. It then moved on to some boy in nursery school, who I vaguely remember kissing behind a bush and has never stopped. Junior High, High School, College and beyond. I have loved and lost and loved again many times.
But once I have fallen in love – I have stayed in love – with those people I have connected to on a deep level. These relationships and connections are what sustain me and give my life meaning. My friendships and the community of people that I have attracted to myself are a testament of my loving and living my life from a ‘heart-centered’ place. Every person I have loved has left an imprint on my heart and has opened me up to love even more – even deeper.
I feel most disconnected when I isolate myself. On my darkest days when I feel like my life isn’t working or that things are imploding around me, I realize I have stopped ‘loving’. Loving myself, loving those in my life, loving life all together. It is at that time I need to find ways to fall in love all over again.
I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when they fall ‘out-of-love’ with someone or their situation, is they look for blame. I came to realize that everything happens for a reason. I may not know what that is but if I can look at each day as another opportunity to reside in my loving, I will find the gifts.
So, I have never had any regrets about relationships that didn’t work out the way I thought – or hoped they would – because I recognize they’ve each helped me to become the who I am. Each one has given me something that I needed at the time to evolve and grow for my highest good. Sometimes it’s not about me but what I can give to the other person.
Begin each day with the questions, “What gifts can I bring to those I love”? What gifts are there for me to receive”? And then just open your heart to all the love that is around you, everywhere, everyday.